Can Women and Homosexuals have Fetishes too?
When one thinks of fetishism, without researching or looking into the science of the concept, it is most probably simply an object, body part, or even an action that sparks an emotion of sexual release. The fetish object is often not one that we have chosen ourselves and can be one that is not easily obtained and so through a building of sexual tension, the release of this desire is the ultimate realization of what the fetish is. Today, the idea of a fetish is normative and differs from person to person. To me, a fetish can only be realized through the range of experiences, such that the one fills a void is the one we come to acknowledge as our fetish.
Psychoanalyst, Sigmund Freud, argued many theories about the development of the human sexuality explained at an unconscious level, which is troubling enough because there is no definitive way to measure the unconscious or the pathway through which the unconscious thought becomes a conscious action. The reading “Fetishism” was difficult to understand because of my inability to relate. Though his arguments deem sound because he observed or interviewed adult men, considering the imaginative nature his arguments, evidence for his track of thought is incomplete. I can agree that fetish stems from an event that affects the way we explore our sexuality, I cannot necessarily agree that it stems from the fear of castration because of its desirous nature. When Freud describes the initial experience of a young infant boy that realizes his mother’s parts are unlike his, I am still uncertain as to how that leads to the substitution of a body part or inanimate object that then becomes a fetish. This is because the ranges of fetishes are infinite and often cannot be described as an object that reminds one of their childhood and more often than not, people have multiple fetishes. I therefore argue that a fetish is desirous because it provides an emotion or sexual tension that we seek and cannot get elsewhere. In order to discover a fetish or multiple fetishes, exploration (and not “investigation”) is required.
On page 843, Freud states, “Why some people become homosexual as a consequence of that impression, while others fend it off by creating a fetish, and the great majority surmount it, we are not able to explain.” The idea that homosexuality is not predetermined and is too a result of the castration complex was just as troubling because aside from desiring the same sex, homosexuals can too have separate fetishes. The distinction the path by which the infant determines or chooses between fetishism and homosexuality wasn’t well explained or proven, as much as it may have seemed like a sequential outcome.
Also, in Freud’s introduction of fetishism, it was difficult to understand from a woman’s perspective simply because we have the same parts as our mother’s and do not experience the same fear. Since his observations consisted of male subjects, the weakest point of his argument comes from the difficulty to empathize with the castration complex is irrelevant because women do not go through the same process of the initial experience in which Freud describes as the point of fetish introduction. Is it then abnormal for a woman to have fetishes? Knowing that women do have fetishes, I began to question whether we too undergo a process by which a fetish becomes the substitute or if there is a deeper understanding to fetishism that Freud could not describe.




